I'm going to take this one point at a time. And I want you to understand that this is in no way meant to hurt your feelings, but to try to explain what I mean. I do think if you cannot read it objectively, you do need to step back.

First off- I am sorry you've have a rough week. You aren't the only person that has stress going on, though, and if feels to me as if you are using it to justify your behavior.

Secondly- You hurt Ana's feelings by making your post on LJ public for everyone to see. That isn't just a lack of communication, but to use your own words? "A nasty move".

Thirdly- You have never asked me what was going on with the plot unless I mentioned something before hand. I am aware that the character was difficult for you to write, but you honestly made Ana feel like she needed your permission to post anything. And when you have taken part in the plotting? It would take would take a lot of pushing and prodding to get things done.

The point is, She did her best to let people know she was doing it. And when and how you reacted was left up to you but she had an idea that she wanted to post. It is unfair of you to expect her to wait for you to read it and stamp your okay before she does anything.

I think you need to step back from this, and realize that you are both wrong. Yes, she could have mentioned it before hand, but you also didn't have to be passive-aggressive snide. You cannot expect people to treat you better if you cannot treat them as respectfully.

I've already told Ana just about everything I can about her part in this. And if you want to say I'm bias, you can. But honestly, Kiki? You are just as guilty of a lack of communication as Ana.