I think the problem is, you and I both expect different things to show and express interest. Even when I do not play with people, if I'm interested in things I ask questions, and try to make sure I know what's going on instead of waiting for people to tell me. I expect the same things out of the people I RP with, so when I hear nothing for large periods of time, I assume they don't care about what is going on.
And if you are not capable of effective communication, I honestly feel you shouldn't have made your post. You have to have known on some level it was going to upset Ana, and that it was going to lead to this sort of argument/discussion. The problem, as I see it, is you thought that because you weren't feeling up to it, that it didn't matter if other people's feelings were hurt.
Also, the fact that you bring up the past so much proves that the 'we've resolved this' discussions we had wasn't resolved at all. We told you guys how we felt, you guys said you'd try to show us more interest. But you've not done that, or else we wouldn't be back here again.
Also, you've not be pushed into a situation. You have the right to wait until you are ready to handle it to even acknowledge the post. Also, the only people it effects are the people that want it to affect them.
As for your fait acomplits, I have to say this. Ana and I start RP in a place that had no OOC communication, and what little there was, there was no outside plotting. You could have a surprise Orc attach, or thieves raid your camp at any moment. You had no choice but to react to the post. Has it shaped the way we RP? Of course it has! We RPed in that fashion for 5+ years.
Also, I don't feel it is fair of you to rely on me to keep you up to date. If you haven't been keeping up, a simple IM to ask where we are and what is going on seems fair to me. I don't expect you to follow every second, but if I play, or want to play a character more I shouldn't have to rely on every post I make being okayed. And that is how I feel you want us to handle this. You make me feel as if I should IM you about everything I want to do with Tucker, and sometimes I just don't know what I want to do before I do it!
I know I've told you I don't like pre-plotting that much. It takes my drive to write and RP things out, because I know what the end is going to be. I don't enjoy it.
At this point, honestly, I don't think our RP styles are even remotely in line with each other. And like Ana said, we should take a break.
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And if you are not capable of effective communication, I honestly feel you shouldn't have made your post. You have to have known on some level it was going to upset Ana, and that it was going to lead to this sort of argument/discussion. The problem, as I see it, is you thought that because you weren't feeling up to it, that it didn't matter if other people's feelings were hurt.
Also, the fact that you bring up the past so much proves that the 'we've resolved this' discussions we had wasn't resolved at all. We told you guys how we felt, you guys said you'd try to show us more interest. But you've not done that, or else we wouldn't be back here again.
Also, you've not be pushed into a situation. You have the right to wait until you are ready to handle it to even acknowledge the post. Also, the only people it effects are the people that want it to affect them.
As for your fait acomplits, I have to say this. Ana and I start RP in a place that had no OOC communication, and what little there was, there was no outside plotting. You could have a surprise Orc attach, or thieves raid your camp at any moment. You had no choice but to react to the post. Has it shaped the way we RP? Of course it has! We RPed in that fashion for 5+ years.
Also, I don't feel it is fair of you to rely on me to keep you up to date. If you haven't been keeping up, a simple IM to ask where we are and what is going on seems fair to me. I don't expect you to follow every second, but if I play, or want to play a character more I shouldn't have to rely on every post I make being okayed. And that is how I feel you want us to handle this. You make me feel as if I should IM you about everything I want to do with Tucker, and sometimes I just don't know what I want to do before I do it!
I know I've told you I don't like pre-plotting that much. It takes my drive to write and RP things out, because I know what the end is going to be. I don't enjoy it.
At this point, honestly, I don't think our RP styles are even remotely in line with each other. And like Ana said, we should take a break.